So I
understand it's sort've early to bring this up, but I just realized that in two
weeks it's Valentine's Day, and to be honest...I never really understood it. Though
I know there's going to be a thousand girls who are going to be pulling around
their obnoxious door-sized teddy bears and dying tulips, I feel like people
miss the point in Valentine's Day. Shouldn't people declare their love every
day, anyways? Why is the feeling of getting dying weeds and a box of calories
the best thing about Valentines Day? But then, as I ranted to myself, I
realized it isn't about the people who are getting the gifts, but about the
people who don't. I don't think
anybody truly wants an object, they just want to be remembered. They love the possibility
that a person who they have never noticed may just be awake until three in the
morning, debating on whether to get them a valentine's day gift, but chickening
out last minute because their love is invisible. It's the ability to love that
everybody is in love with it for. It's the reminder that we are important. It's
the idea that despite the fact we never
truly know if people like us, that maybe people do.
I feel
like this subject ties into a lot of books we have read this year. I mean, love
is always a big theme in novels, but it's the depth and reason for love that
makes us read these novels. Did Torvald's flowers really hold significance? Was
the feelings that Archer had for Ellen stronger than an object? Was Grendel
really unable to love, or was it just that he believed he could not be loved? And,
if all of these are true, was it truly worth it in the end? I think in
Invisible Man a lot of it is about the inability to see each other. The people
in that era were so incapable (mostly for the white people) of attempting to
see through a black person's eyes, making it completely impossible to love each
other. Even in that story, just a tad of sympathy towards the poor would have
changed an entire lifetime. Something that may be, in some ways, the strongest
love of all. This also ties into Blake's motives when he write. Of course, I
could be totally wrong, but I believe Blake's heaven is really just Hell. I
think the world he was in was so incapable of touching him, so incapable of at
least responding, that he needed something so obscure and unlovable for him to
feel love. He seeked Hell because Heaven wouldn't love him. Though we haven't
read much of Hamlet, I believe he'd truly correspond with Valentine's Day
because he loves his family (or, at least, his family when his father was
alive) more than his kingdom. He'd take the opportunity to appreciate the
people he has, and use it to share his love.
I think he understands Valentine's Day (or would have) because he
understands the point of love in life.
It's not
about declaring love, its reminding us that we can be loved. And that's why Valentine's Day is so sad to me. Shouldn't we already know that?
